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has happened in human history
A combination of cultural preferences, government decree and modern medical technology in the world's two largest countries has created a
gender imbalance on a continental scale
Men outnumber women by 70 million in China and India.The consequences of having too many men, now coming of age, are far-reaching: Beyond an
epidemic of loneliness, the imbalance distorts labor markets, drives up savings rates in China and drives down consumption, artificially
inflates certain property values, and parallels increases in violent crime, trafficking or prostitution in a growing number of
locations.Those consequences are not confined to China and India, but reach deep into their Asian neighbors and distort the economies of
Europe and the Americas, as well
Barely recognized, the ramifications of too many men are only starting to come into sight. Out of China's population of 1.4 billion, there
are nearly 34 million more males than females"In the future, there will be millions of men who can't marry, and that could pose a very big
risk to society," warns Li Shuzhuo, a leading demographer at Xi'an Jiaotong University.Out of China's population of 1.4 billion, there are
nearly 34 million more males than females - the equivalent of almost the entire population of California, or Poland, who will never find
wives and only rarely have sex
China's official one-child policy, in effect from 1979 to 2015, was a huge factor in creating this imbalance, as millions of couples were
determined that their child should be a son.India, a country that has a deeply held preferences for sons and male heirs, has an excess of 37
million males, according to its most recent census
The number of newborn female babies compared with males has continued to plummet, even as the country grows more developed and prosperous
The imbalance creates a surplus of bachelors and exacerbates human trafficking, both for brides and, possibly, prostitution
Officials attribute this to the advent of sex-selective technology in the last 30 years, which is now banned but still in widespread
practice.In the two countries, 50 million excess males are under age 20.Both nations are belatedly trying to come to grips with the policies
that created this male-heavy generation
And demographers say it will take decades for the ramifications of the bulge to fade away.In the four sections below are personal tales that
show how the imbalance has affected:- Stagnant lives: Village life and mental health
Among men, loneliness and depression are widespread
Villages are emptying out
Men are learning to cook and perform other chores long relegated to women.Foreign women are being recruited and lured to China, effectively
creating similar imbalances in China- The desperate effort to land a bride: Housing prices and savings rates
Bachelors are furiously building houses in China to attract wives, and prices are soaring
But otherwise they are not spending, and that in turn fuels China's huge trade surplus
In India, there is the opposite effect: Because brides are scarce, families are under less pressure to save for expensive dowries.-
Importing a bride: Human trafficking
Trafficking of brides is on the rise
Foreign women are being recruited and lured to China, effectively creating similar imbalances in China's neighbors.- Taking a stand over
harassment: Public safety
With the increase in men has come a surge in sexual crime in India and concerns about a rise in other crimes in both countries
Harassment of schoolgirls in India has in some towns sparked an effort to push back - but at a cost of restricting them to more protected
lives.Part One: Stagnant lives'Life is boring and lonely'Li Weibin has never had a girlfriend
Boys outnumbered girls in the isolated mountain village where he grew up, in the factories where he worked as teenager, and on the
construction sites where he now earns a modest wage.Today, 30 years old, he lives in a bare, stuffy dormitory room with five other men in
the southern city of Dongguan, bunk beds lining the walls, cigarette butts carpeting the floor."I want to find a girlfriend, but I don't
have the money or the opportunity to meet them," he said
"Girls have very high standards, they want houses and cars
They don't want to talk to me."Li's problem is not only that he is poor and struggling to save enough money to buy an apartment of his own,
it is that in China there are simply too many men
This is a country where marriage confers social status, and where parental pressure to produce grandchildren is intense
Bachelors like Li are dismissively branded as "bare branches" for failing to expand the family tree.But as any forester knows, bare branches
pose a danger, and not just to themselves.In Dongguan, where the gender ratio is 118 men to 100 women, Li says he has virtually given up
hope of finding a girlfriend
He spends his spare time playing games on his phone, or accompanying his co-workers to karaoke or for a foot massage."It is just me," he
"Life is boring and lonely."- - -'May you be the mother of a hundred sons'When Om Pati, a farmer's wife in the Indian village of Bass, in
the state of Haryana, was having children, she actually prayed a sweet-eyed girl bundle would arrive
But instead she had a son
Then another, and another - seven in all
Her neighbors in the village were overjoyed for her each time a new baby arrived
They rang steel plates so everyone in the neighborhood would know a boy had been born.After all, this is a culture where male children are
desired above all else - to light the Hindu funeral pyre, inherit property, care for aging parents
As the Sanskrit blessing says, "May you be the mother of a hundred sons."Sometimes it felt to Om Pati like she was the mother of 100 sons
She worked from sunrise until night
She consoled herself with the thought that she would one day have daughters-in-law to trade stories and share cooking duties
Grandchildren, too.But by the time her eldest Sanjay - now 38 and a cook - reached marriageable age, the practice of families in her area
sneaking off to larger cities for an illegal sonogram and then an abortion had taken its toll
When she and her husband began seeking matches for arranged marriage, still the norm, there were no suitable brides
The few young women in the village had all married - that is, those who hadn't left for better opportunities elsewhere.These days, Om Pati,
now 60, spends her days cooking and cleaning for her husband and adult sons, who range from age 22 to 38
They gobble up so many rotis - the flat-round bread loaves that are a household staple, each one shaped in her calloused hands - that she
goes through several pounds of flour a day."There is no other option," she said
"It's not in our hands."- - -'No one knows how sad I feel' Haryana's Suresh Kumar even went back to earn his high school degree in hopes of
being a more attractive suitorSuresh Kumar once dreamed of getting married, with a procession through the lanes of Bass, a bride adorned in
gold and the kind of ceremony that was once a near-universal rite of passage for Indian men.But after one potential engagement fell apart,
no other suitable brides could be found
He even went back to earn his high school degree in hopes of being a more attractive suitor.Still no one
Now Kumar is in his mid-30s, long past what is considered marriageable age in India, and is beginning to face a hard truth - that a wife and
a family won't happen for him."People say, 'You don't have a wife and children at home to care for - why are you working so hard" Kumar said
"I laugh on the outside but the pain that I have in my heart only I know."The men themselves are isolated, left out of major family
decisions and subject to ridicule, with little in the way of support or mental health services
Worse, in the traditional culture of villages, those who missed out on marriage have no hope of female companionship - dating or having a
girlfriend is out of the question.One recent evening, a family threw a rooftop party to celebrate the birth of a boy
Parties to welcome girl babies are still so rare they are covered by the local newspaper
Before the guests arrived, Kumar huddled in a stairwell nearby, sweating over a cast-iron pot, cracking jokes with friends as he fried sweet
pancakes for the guests.He likes to cook, he says, but the role occasionally unbalances him.During a harvest festival last year, his mother
was delayed in another town
So Kumar was left to prepare the pancakes on his own
As he flipped the cakes in the bubbling oil, he grew teary-eyed, thinking of how there was no wife and kids to eat the treats he was
making.With a wife, he says, "there would be somebody to make tea for me, to tell me when to take a bath
We don't have much value as unmarried men in this society
Everybody thinks, 'What problem does this man have What is lacking in his family What is lacking in him' "Evenings are the loneliest times,
when the village folds into itself, minders return with their cows from the pond, smoke wafts from evening meals, schoolchildren still in
their plaid school uniforms play in the uneven lanes
Kumar shuts himself in his room."I watch TV, romantic movies sometimes," Kumar says
"What can I do It's up to me then
What I feel inside stays inside."It wasn't supposed to end up this way
When he was in high school he had a brief romance with a classmate, a beautiful 17-year-old, tall and slim, with two braids that reached
Even now he cannot speak of her without singing a few bars of an Urdu love song."I looked for her on Facebook just yesterday," he says.But
the tryst was discovered, the parents put a stop to it, and his classmate eventually married someone else
And the family wasn't able to find any other suitable prospective brides for him."We feel it, but this is a problem in every house," said
his mother, Bhima, sitting with her son after the party in the dimly lit courtyard of the modest house where they live.Sometimes, Kumar
says, the suffocation he feels is palpable:"You know how when there's no wind and a plant is sitting there and the leaves are not moving
That's how the man feels: You're just stationary."- - -Part Two: To catch a wife, build a house'If you want to find a wife, you have to
build a house'Today, young people are fleeing the villages in a desperate search for fortune, and marriage
The best way to find a bachelor in rural China these days: look for someone building a house.Li Defu is typical
Now 21, he left home seven years ago to find work in the provincial capital Guiyang, but he has pooled the family savings to build a 10-room
house overlooking green hills and valleys of his birthplace, Paifeng.The reason is simple: It is the only chance he has of finding a
wife."At the moment there aren't any girls my age around," he said, on a recent trip home to supervise the construction
"But I am building this new house in preparation, in case I find someone."Li was brought up by his grandmother, a tiny, wizened woman who
sat beside him as he chatted
His parents still work in far-off factories; the savings they have collected could be crucial.Around $10,000, Li reckons, will have to be
paid to his future bride's family, just to gain their approval for the engagement
A centuries-old tradition, the bride price in China is similar to a dowry elsewhere in the world, but paid from groom's family to the
bride's parents - rather than the other way around.A decade or two back, the typical "bride price" was just a few hundred dollars
Today, in some parts of China, the average is nearly $30,000, according to a survey by the People's Daily newspaper.That translates into
huge pressure for young men like Li and their families
Indeed, helping to build Li's house was another young man who was already feeling that pressure."There are very few girls here, and many
girls from outside won't want to marry into this village because it's poor," said 25-year-old Zhou Haijiang, as he laid the tiles in one of
the house's many bathrooms
Only a show of prosperity can attract, and hold, a bride."In our village, if you want to find a wife, you have to build a house."Zhou said
he would like to stay in Paifeng all his life, but the pay isn't good, and he will soon reluctantly join the tide of migrant workers heading
for China's booming megacities, in search of riches - and brides.Many unmarried Chinese men have made their way to cities like Dongguan in
southern China's Pearl River Delta, a vast urban agglomeration nicknamed the "factory of the world."Their work ethic, their determination to
succeed, is remarkable.In a noodle shop close to a series of shoe factories, a 24-year-old who gave only his family name, Wang, was enjoying
In between mouthfuls, he said he left his home in rural western China a decade ago and now works 11 or 12 hours a day, with just two days
off a month.He has already saved enough to build a house back in his home village, but is still struggling to find a wife."If you are picky,
"There are also more boys here, and it is not necessarily easy to meet girls."- - -Part Three: Importing brides'You are my slave'Liu Hua
couldn't find a wife in China
So he decided to buy a foreign one
His sister and mother helped him choose from a selection of Cambodian women who had come to China looking for husbands, eventually picking
out a slim girl with a nice smile.Their main concern - she was a bit taller than him
That, and worrying about what the neighbors would think. Liu Hua couldn't find a wife in China
So he decided to buy a foreign one."People in the village said she'd run away, they thought a foreign wife wasn't as good as a Chinese
wife," said Liu, who lives in Leping in southeastern China's Jiangxi province
"But now they don't think so any more
My wife didn't run away, she is friendly with the neighbors and treats them politely
Everyone says how nice she is.His wife, Lili, is among tens of thousands of foreign women who are flocking here for marriage, pushed by
poverty at home and sucked in by China's dramatic shortage of women.Leping has become a center for the trade in Cambodian women: in village
after village, they are easy to spot, looking after young children and picking them up from school, or just hanging out watching their
husbands play mah-jongg.In Huangling, a village two hours' drive to the north of Leping, Liu and Lili's was the first of several
transnational marriages."Our village has 50 or 60 bachelors and only one or two single women," said Liu
"For men who are 40 or even older, Cambodian women are like a second chance."But for the women involved, it is a huge gamble, being
catapulted into families where daughters-in-law often occupy the lowest status of all, especially foreign ones who have just been
"bought."Not surprising, then, that Lili's mother didn't want her to come
You don't speak the language, you don't know anyone, it's dangerous, she warned.But in Cambodia, daughters are expected to help support the
Lili's father had died, and there were three young brothers to bring up and get through school
Her village, in central Cambodia's Kampong Cham province, offered no real employment opportunities.Lili, who was born Sreynich Yorn in
Cambodia, was paid the equivalent of $450, plus travel expenses, and promised a relatively well-paid job in a Chinese factory when she
arrived, provided she agreed to get married."I wanted the money, for my mother," she said.Liu said he paid deposits ranging from $5,000 to
$40,000 to three local families, just for the right to date their daughters, and got only some of the money back when the matches didn't
work out.Fed up with demanding Chinese families, he eventually decided to pay a broker nearly $15,000 for Lili, who took a Chinese name
after moving there.The two profess to be content, living in a house filled with photos of their wedding and their two young children, a
4-year-old boy, Siyiuan, and his 1-year-old sister Sisi
In one, they sit on a park bench, he in his best gray suit and red tie, she in a white wedding dress carrying a bunch of red and white
roses, together making the shape of a heart with their arms.Both insist theirs is a genuine marriage, not a transaction
Happily, Liu's mother approves.But Lili still feels cheated, especially after she found out how much her husband had paid
The job she was promised never materialized, and she is furious with the marriage broker for pocketing almost all the fee."She lied to me
for money," she said.Lili spends her days looking after her two young children
Her husband, a painter and decorator, is often away for work, but her mother-in-law seems sympathetic, even proud of the young woman who
brought her two grandchildren.Her own mother even visited here last year, and went home with a wad of money, around $1,500, that will help
the rest of the family.She is one of the lucky ones."My husband is a good man and he treats me well," she said."I don't want to go back
I have children now."One 32-year-old woman, interviewed in the Cambodian capital Phnom Penh, said she had been enticed to come to China with
the promise of a factory job
But when she landed, she was forced to marry a man she didn't like."My husband said to me: 'You are my slave, I bought you
If I want, I can do anything to you.'"Her new family locked her in the house to prevent her from fleeing, she said
Her husband demanded sex four times a day
If she refused, she was beaten.Finally, she had a baby girl
Seven days after birth, her husband demanded sex again, and when she refused, beat her, she said
Two years later, she recalled, she had a miscarriage, was denied medical treatment by her husband's family and almost died.For three years,
the woman had not called her family back home in Cambodia "because I didn't want my mother to worry," and because she felt ashamed she
hadn't been able to send any money home.Eventually, though, she called her brother
Together they convinced the Chinese family to let her visit her sick mother in Cambodia - but they let her goonly on the condition she leave
her daughter behind.Now she lives in a cruel limbo
Scared of being stigmatized in her village, she rarely goes home, working instead for low pay in a garment factory on the outskirts of Phnom
Penh.She has been separated from her 3-year-old daughter for more than a year.Thinking of her, a fleeting smile passes over her face."I cry
every day," she said.With men outnumbering women in China by 34 million, the demand for foreign wives risks simply shifting the problem onto
China's smaller neighbors.Russian women, some of whom used to look to the West for husbands, are increasingly seeking marriage in China,
says Elena Barabantseva at Britain's University of Manchester, who has been leading an international project on marriage migration into
China.In China, they are the most sought-after brides, prized for their fair skin and European features
They are seen as educated but accessible, less emancipated than Western women
These women are more likely to end up in bigger cities, with richer men.Commercial marriage tours to Russia as well as Ukraine offer Chinese
men the chance to meet 10 or 20 women over the space of a few days for around $5,000, rising to $8,000 if they find a bride.But a much
larger number of women come from Vietnam
Marriage migration across the porous border in southern China began two decades ago and is flourishing, said Caroline Grillot, who has been
researching the phenomenon for a decade, most recently with Barabantseva in Manchester.Vietnamese women are seen as less "demanding" than
some Chinese women and more focused on traditional family values
They are also sought after for their fair skin, their big eyes and slim waists, Grillot says
They in turn often prefer Chinese husbands to their own compatriots, not just for their wallets, but because they are seen as hard-working
and family-focused.Today websites like ZhongYueLove.com (China-Viet-Love) offer a selection of Vietnamese women
Some services offer a money-back guarantee that the brideswill be virgins, and a free replacement for any whorun away within a year.Others
arrive from Burma and Laos, crossing into China's relatively poor southwestern Yunnan province.In effect they are replacing local women who
have themselves migrated, to find husbands in more prosperous parts of "inner China," said Shen Hanmei, a professor at Yunnan University in
Kunming.Significant numbers have poured in from North Korea, too, especially after famine struck there in the mid-1990s
Many have suffered horrendous treatment from abusive husbands or were trafficked into prostitution in China, and ended up in labor camps if
they tried to return to their home country.- - -Part Four: Taking a stand on harassment'Locked in their fist'First the girls refused to go
Then they launched a sit-in in the center of town
Then they stopped eating.A group of 11-graders in the Indian village of Gothra Tappa Dahina sparked a public revolt because they were tired
of being harassed by men as they walked to school in a neighboring town
Nearly every day on the road, they said, they would be circled by young men buzzing them on motorbikes, grabbing their scarves, their
bodies, and calling them sexually provocative names.Street harassment - called "eve teasing" here - has long been a problem in Indian
society, which remains deeply patriarchal despite years of economic growth and superficial signs of change
Now, the widening imbalance between numbers of men and women in the country is exacerbating the problem, public safety officials
believe.This conservative part of northern India has 7,000 villages with as many as 150 to 200 surplus single men each, one study said
In a country all too familiar with crimes against women, packs of men, fueled by cheap local liquor, often take to the street to chase and
pressure young women.Ultimately the girls decided to take matters into their own hands."There's too many men," said Nikita Chauhan, 14, the
willowy daughter of the village seamstress who became a protest leader
"They keep us locked in their fist."Last May, amid blackened, burned-over farmers' fields and in the scorching heat, the girls gathered
under a printed cotton tent in the center of the village and began their strike.The temperatures soared to 107 degrees
Some fainted and had to be taken to the hospital
Some passed out and lay as they were, fanned by fellow students, who spooned water laced with electrolyte powder into their mouths, like
They were joined by the mayor, their mothers, then women from other villages.A month earlier, the girls had graduated from the village
school to high school and began experiencing what their older sisters had long warned them about - that the 1.5-mile stretch of road between
their village and the high school was not safe, because of the young men on motorcycles - with helmets obscuring their faces - who harassed
them as they walked."I decided whatever I had experienced during those days wasn't worth tolerating," said Sujata Chauhan, 14, sitting near
(The girls are not related - Chauhan is a common last name among the local caste.)Gothra Tappa Dahina village is a small community of nearly
3,000, mostly farming families who grow corn, wheat and millet
It is part of a district that has one of the worst boy-girl ratios in Haryana, an economically strong but socially backward state which
itself has the worst gender ratio of newborns to age 6 in the country, according to census data
Crimes against women have risen in the state by 127 percent in the last decade.The imbalance of men to women in the village tells the story
- there are 133 men to every 100 women, according to community health statistics.During hot, sleepy days, the men in the village play rummy
on the front porch of the community center, their backs to the painted "Girl Boy Board" where community health workers have tallied the sex
of newborns, monitoring done as part of Prime Minister Narendra Modi's "Save Girl Child, Educate Girl Child" program, which carries out
public awareness campaigns on the importance of caring for and educating girls
PM Modi launched the program after India's ratio of boys to girls (newborns to age 6) widened significantly between the census of 2001 and
that of 2011.Those who admit to "eve-teasing" say that it is harmless
Sometimes the girls flirt back or encourage it, they say.College student Shakti Singh, 20, said he would like a girlfriend but has no clue
how to get one.With little help from their conservative parents but with easy access to the Internet, he and his friends model their
behavior on the swains in Bollywood romance movies
The genre - often with a hero who breaks down a woman's reluctance - has been criticized for glorifying stalking and rape."There is a lot of
effect from movies," Singh said
"Even though the girl says no he continues chasing her, and she still says no
But in the end he gets the girl."Now multiply that impression by the several million unattached young men watching these movies nationwide
The state recently launched a program to curtail these misguided "Romeos," with special police squads to patrol shopping malls, college
campuses and bus stands where chronic harassers gather."I won't tease in the village
But outside I do," boasted Lal Singh, a field worker, 31.In Gothra village, the girls' sit-in finally notched a small victory.After eight
days, school officials - worn down by seeing the wilting girls on cable news as the protest garnered attention - announced that the girls'
They would open 11th and 12th grades in the existing village school so the girls would not have to walk. Suresh Chauhan - the local
sarpanch in Haryana - says that education is the key to undoing what decades of patriarchyIt was a victory that did little to discipline the
harassing young men, and one that will liberate the girls by keeping them closer to home - but a victory, nonetheless.Suresh Chauhan - the
local sarpanch, or mayor, who sat in the heat with the girls throughout the protest - says that education is the key to undoing what decades
of patriarchy in India have wrought."The change is in the younger generation
People look at each other and change themselves," he said
There is some shift due to wider worlds glimpsed on television and smartphones, he said, but "education is the highest reason for change."A
few days later, the 11-graders, flush with victory, lined up to await the start of classes at their school - a horseshoe-shaped ring of
spare concrete rooms, some without desks."Until we were at the hunger strike, we did not realize how progressive our village had become
How they think now! Now, we are not restricted at all," Sujata Chauhan said
"People have come to realize that we have equal rights and they are willing to give them to us."Video: Shaofeng's problem - one faced by
millions of his countrymen - is a product of cultural preferences, government decree and modern medical technology
In China, there are simply too many men.(Lu Liu/for The Washington Post)(This story has not been edited by staff and is auto-generated from
